"To Be" Exactly As You Are Where You Are

If you are suffering from future mindset because you are a human with a brain, you might want to read this.

The false formula for a happy life:

When __________ happens, THEN I will be HAPPY.

Words to fill the blank space:

• you finish a project

• clean your entire house

• wrap up school

• move somewhere new

• buy new workout clothes, shoes, dresses, laptop case, wheels, nails, flat screen tv... you name it...

• get a new job

• pay off the mortgage

• a test is over

• you lose weight

• having straighter teeth

• making BANK $$

• an attractive and wonderful person says I want to date you

• an attractive and wonderful persons says I want to marry you

• you have children

• you get promoted

• the splits come easy to you

• you start up a business venture

• whichever mental task that consumes you dissipates

When we set goals, maintain them, and achieve them... what an accomplishment! Yes, It can make us happy (sometimes for a short period until we are ready to jump on the next thing.) Goals are good & dreams do come true. But what I aim to highlight this entry is the mental experience we face between the moments of wanting something to getting it.

Like many of you, there is a stage in life where so much ahead of you is about to change. You don't exactly know when, or you do but are unclear how its going to unfold. AKA. the unknown. the black obis/the wormhole of your future. Would it be better to get a glimpse of your future just to know what you are getting into? That would be nuts, I want the ease of knowing but to risk reveling what the world has in store for me is not worth it. We will NEVER know! We can plan for what we want to a degree then just trust the rest of the system.

The next thing.

I am constantly rolling mini clips in my head to daydream my future self, for as long as I can remember.

1. Once you graduate from Besieker you will be free! get there, get there!

2. Once you move to Calgary you will find friends that match you & experience all the joys of the Rockies. Go get some!

3. Once you graduate University you will be relived from homework

4. Once you finish this difficult trail you will be snug in your bed

5. Once you find a less stressful job your life will be smoother

6. Once you graduate school again... then you will be relived from homework.

7. Once you move to the country life will be more simple

I tell myself Zo, life will get better and easier after I am done what I am doing. Let me give myself credit by sharing how proud I am of balancing work and personal time in my 20's. I have reaped plenty of rewards of my own doing. I have found so much peace and joy in my daily endeavors. I am a happy person with or without the accomplishments or wins. I do experience feelings of anxiousness and worry about the things hanging over me in the background such as work/school balance.

You have been here before, right? Many times you told yourself, over that hill is a clearing. Calmness, ease, and comfort come after. We are deserving of calmness right now though. During an exam you can find calm. How? BIG slow breathing over and over to settle that heart rate. Maybe taking a moment.

In times of stress: yoga, meditation, movement, nature and music can be your way out. Is there someone else you reach for to find your calm in moments that are tricky? Do you paint, dance, pour tea, latch onto a blanket > lay on your back > slide your legs up the wall? Time is our classic barrier. So this week even as you are slaying your day away, take 5 deep big breathes as you are.

Because this moment right now is all we have. To live in the moment for more minutes than planned. Today is the last day of March 30th, 2022 ever. Where is the sun shining in the sky? Are there many clouds and how windy is it? Lets place our busy mind of the future into a colorful envelop. Add some warm wishes, smiles, and strength to the package. Sign your name on it, draw a heart and place it in the mail box. Life ahead will come with challenges, events, and losses. It will also come with many heart warming days and adventures by the ocean. Trust in it then let the mail make its way to the future you.

You did your best today and always. Even when the skies are grey, you are on your menstrual cycle, and you are low on groceries. Even when you aren't as prepared as you wanted or didn't get your stretching in. Be proud of the little small things and roll with it. "Sucking at something is the first step to becoming sorta good at something" - Jake The Dog.

With the power of our mindset lets say that life is good and we have so much to be grateful for.

Lets say you can,

Be exactly as you are where you are, right now. <3

Mucho Lava,

Zoey Fern xoxo.